19 years ago my life changed forever when I adopted my son. My sole interest in doing this blog is to educate people on the blessings of adoption. I intend to share stories of others who have taken this journey albeit through closed, open, domestic or international adoption. I am not sure where God will take me in this journey, but I hope that you will go along with me.
On a normal visit to my OB-GYN doctor, my doctor said these words, “Mrs. Wyant, you have a severe case of endometriosis and so if you were interested in starting a family, now would be that time.” I immediately burst into tears. My poor doctor (who remains my Dr today) never knew what hit him.
You see.. 6 months prior, I became a widow at age 29 unexpectedly. I always knew that I wanted to be a mom but I thought I had plenty of time. Adoption was not a foreign concept to me (my brother is adopted) but the reality of those words from my doctor made me really do some soul searching. What did I want? Could I do this alone? Did I want to have my own? Was it acceptable? Who cared if it was acceptable? What about adoption? Would they adopt to a single parent? Can I do this alone? What if I cant? What if I’m still grieving and just trying to replace him? What if… what if… what if…. With all of these questions swirling through my head.. I knew 1 thing.. that I wanted to a be a mom.
So what next? I began doing research.. I leaned on my faith to help me in this decision and the answer became simple…. adoption. The year was 1995 and I began doing research.. domestic adoption, of course. There were hundreds of thousands of kids in this country to adopt. However at this time in our country, the news was filled with biological parent (s) who were coming back into their adopted kids life and reclaiming them. To be fair, I didn’t really read the court cases to fully understand why this was happening but I knew that the idea of this scared me. Then two people entered my life that would cause it to change forever.
The first was an ex-wife of a customer who was literally getting on a plane to go to Russia to bring her daughter home. In talking to her, she said the most important decision you can make in international adoption is to choose the right adoption agency. (this would come to ring true later) The second influence I will bring up later in this journey. And so it began, I spent the better part of 18 months to 2 years researching adoption agencies. I basically interviewed them and after about 12-15 interviews, there was one that stood out to me… Americans for International Aid and Adoption out of Michigan. And so it began…. (stay tuned)